Player Hater? Perhaps...

Someone called me a player hater. To that I replied: " What are you...fishing for compliments. You're making the assumption that I think you're a player; perhaps I just hate your corny-ass style."  Thus ignites the rant for the moment.

What is hater? Is it the jealous person that steals the shining moment from anything positive? Are haters merely life's disgruntled losers who can never win? What about chronic nay-sayers or people who use put-downs? These days to be called a hater in some circles is almost akin to being called a bully, met with the reception befitted for  a pariah. Some people think that the word hate should never be used except only under extreme circumstances, as if our culture has an arsenal of words to only be fired in times of distress. Give me a break! Everything has it's place. Someone has to hate the assholes of the world!

True, there are many presentations of hate. But I think there is a difference between individuals who are guided by jealousy and those that are simply trying to stay sucker-free at any cost. Jealousy involves something being taken to heart, something out of one's favor. This kind of hater is actually sensitive and is highly reactive to others. They can be careless, lack insight, and very superficial in their observations of the world and its inner workings. They are the early, but temporary supporters of a cause. Examples of the douche bags I'm talking about include: People who hate without even bothering being informed. OR people who hate out of their need to feel unique; a good hater isn't looking for approval.

I like to say that some people hate from the heart. These people are critical of the activities around them and operate from a place of freedom of self-preservation. This kind of hater sees the fuckery in life and avoids the shaft. These haters are OK with and prepared for the good and bad consequences that may come with may come with telling somebody to shut the fuck up. Yet this kind of hater is able to enjoy being around others. Sometimes their nay-saying gives more time for debate on the floor- a filibuster of sorts. These haters can creative, tend to be sarcastic, and are always ready for the big pay back.  They always have the best disses and threats! I'm most impressed with their agility in the world of  Yo Mama jokes. The image above, Dave Chapelle's Player Haters are an wonderful example of commendable hatred.

Not every hater is out to become the next slave driver or Hitler. Some haters have their own special brand of laissez-faire  Fuck It, that shows up to give some a chuckle and others disappointing scowl. Which side of the divide do you reside? 

Til next time

Your Relationship with Your Man's Mistress

It's quite the senseless act for women get preoccupied with the woman their man has cheated with.  Women make all kinds of bullshit comparisons and assumptions regarding mistresses. Thus, so much so that now, you haphazardly have a relationship with the mistress.

The Allegory of Two Baths

By the time one is an adult they have had enough bullshit debates to draw a few lines in the sand. One case I find myself visiting a couple of times a year is one of hygiene: to bathe or to shower which one is better, gets you cleaner? Are you a body splasher or a puddle dweller? But before you step to your moral high-grounds, there are other more specious, more dubious forms of cleansing to consider. We can look to women of the night to bring something innovative to the hygiene debate. I present: the allegory of two baths.

Tragedy du Jour

As the technologically savvy parts of the planet watches Japan during it's devastating time, am I an asshole for wondering what else is going on with the rest of the world? I want the Japanese to rise from the tragedy of an earthquake, tsunami, and now nuclear reactor meltdown. Thus, in the same way I wanted the Haitians to recover, to lift the spirits of New Orleans residents, well wish tsunami victims of Sumatra Indonesia and wanted those in Pennsylvania/DC/ New York to heal and be cared for. But I also would like to know about other things that are taking place with the rest of the planet. Must I have to watch news of this latest horror on every channel and read about it endlessly? To me the quantity and quality of coverage of most natural disasters and (on occasion) high profile terrorist act received is in my view is a bit perverse.

Bullsh*t Atheists

This one goes out to all the atheists I know. I love y'all!

I have been to a few different kinds churches: Catholic, Baptist, Pentecostal, Holiness. Non-churches: Kingdom Hall, Mosque, and Synagogue. I do not claim to be a biblical scholar or to even have half the answers. But will say that at different points in the my life I have been curious about the happenings at places of worship. I do believe in a supreme being I will call God for the sake of having an identifiable label. This post isn't about those who claim a religion as much as those who claim NOT to have a religion. Atheists are funny in that they sometimes treat the idea of having a specific faith like the idea of dating the ugly chick.  Like they make a more valid point by publicly dissing it or distancing themselves from it. Just because they claim non-belief, doesn't excuse them from social standards of conviction.

Vacation Styles of the Broke and Restless: I: The Time-share

I recently went out with this guy who was an Upper who traded vacation stories with me. Uppers devote much time flapping their gums to give the illusion of being better off than they actually are. The worst kind of Upper is borderline delusional and somehow expects no one to deduce or cross reference anything they say with what they do or who they are. They rarely look like their life or sage has afforded them the opportunities they claim to have experienced. In this case, the guy wanted to appear as a cultured, cool profligate. But I could see through his vacation lies to the spirit of his broke hustle.

Jobs I've Hated: Walmart

Of all of the customer service jobs I have suffered through in my youth, Walmart had to be the worst. There was no part I remotely could connect with to lessen the agony. Everything from the 100 ineffective customer service, department, assistant, co and store managers per store, to the people that shopped there became the dregs of my life for 6-9 hours out of my day.  Although most average public will at some point in life find themselves in this hell hole, I came to hate the base demographic that the chain holds dear. Don't get me wrong I'm no discount store snob. I also shop at Target, and will do a quick run to the dollar store. 

 Many Walmart shoppers take things to a higher level of horrible.